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Portfolio Dani Martín: "I have been in the psychiatrist for therapy to stop seducing, I could never avoid it"

Dani Martín is the man who wove the sentimental soundtrack of several generations of kids, which accompanied us in the parks and the first cinemas and the terrible new kisses and hate the mirror: hence he mutates symbol.He has some brother of ours, Peterpanesco, thug, candy too, magically trapped in the beautiful country where intrepid children never grew.

Many of us knew what we felt - in the curious years, in the vertiginous and initiatory years - because he named him.I woke up dreaming that he was by your side.It is impossible to read it without humming it.I keep waiting for you so much, you have never noticed in me, that's why I have to invent you.She has sold everything, he has won everything.He knows success and his honey, success and his traps.He sang to Platonic love and the best friends and the blessed mothers and unbearable nostalgia, he had everything with infinite purity, tenderThe levitation, to the inexplicable giggle- sounds inside a song of El Canto del Loco, the band led by our interviewee that dissolved in 2009.

There were ballots to become a majadero: so much applause the sound of the world.How many did not give in to the driver with half of glory that he.But not only that did not happen, but Dani Martín continues to compose with ancient emotion and the layers of chulería are removed in front of us to be tiny and fragile and mortal;And he uploads to Instagram photos without filters and wearing his rosacea and claims the importance of mental health and dodges the ego every time -who for that boxa and has learned to avoid the blows of vanity.

We chat with him in the rock armchairs, long, deep and lying: it smells like perfume, drinks water, speaks warmly - from a place similar to peace, which I work costs us - and when he stops to think, he takes thelips the hand in which a skull carries tattooed.He brings a record under his arm, an album of versions of his exband called no, does not return, and starts a tour that threatens to be historical.He has exhausted five nights at the Wizink in Madrid.He knows well that we like nothing in life than an old song.And in all those that Dani sings, who knows why witchcraft, we are so young again ...

Question.- How has Dani Martín changed since 1999, when you founded the madman's song?

Answer.- I think I have suffered a natural evolution.All this is part of learning, experiences and everything that has happened.Looking back, I see myself with the same illusion, with the same desire to continue learning.Before, look, I think I was safer.

Q.- And that?

A.- Maybe my shield or my frame, the one that put myself at some point in my life, made me have more poise.And then not having to compare: record sales, lists, prizes, I don't know what ... all of that makes you not thinking so much about how the following will be, if it will be less than the above.But I think I've been a good learner.And I have worked a lot.I think that has made a clean and healthy garden.

Q.- Are you afraid to die of success?

A.- Success is a very dangerous drug.If suddenly success takes away your face, it has to be difficult.That is why I think it is very important that part of your self -esteem is put in other things and not only in your profession, because that is very ephemeral.If your self -esteem is based on the applause of on Saturdays, you are screwed.You have to rely on the football game with your friends during the week that gives you life, in boxing, in the family, in traveling, in watching movies ... I do not know, in other things that fill you and that make you also feel part ofThis life and not just being a singer.

Dani Martín in conversation with Porfolio.javier Carbajal.

Q.- Boxing is a very poetic sport.What takes from you, how do you relate it to life?

R.- Take out the best.That is why I take my boxing teacher on the tourThen half an hour of voice heating and makes me leave differently.On Tuesdays and Thursdays, apart, I make boxing at home with him.It is an hour and a half of endorphin liberation, of feeling very good.

Q.- Do you get in the ring?

R.- Yes. Glove.And we gloves with codes of respect and in a very healthy way.My bull hurts a little.

Q.- Some host you take.

R.- Yes. I like it.It helps me lose fear.

Q.- I remember a phrase from Million Dollar Baby: "The first rule said: Protect yourself at all times."How do you protect yourself, in boxing and in life?

A.- Well, until a year ago I have protected myself fleeing from me and putting a shell to hide my sensitivity, my vulnerability.Since then I am learning that all that is me.I have decided not to protect myself.I have preferred to put limits on certain things and show me everything I can as I am.He is less exhausting and lives happier.

Q.- It is true that since you finished with the band and started on your solo albums, we started seeing that job in some way, right?That work of self -knowledge, of vulnerability recognition.

R.- Yes, total.Since then, but this last year and a half it has made me realize many things.And I find myself emotionally at the best moment of my life.I am loving myself as I am, I am learning to manage my emotions.I am trying not to give rise to everything that does not depend on me and that frustrated me and that made me angry with my environment and others.It is a job to be done with a professional or a professional.

Q.- You have talked publicly about the importance of caring for mental health and you have told in networks that you go to the psychiatrist.Why in so many areas still look like a taboo theme, an awkward theme, why that desire to show us perfect, euphoric, beautiful ...?

A.- Because teaching charms is always easier and generates a greater attraction than teaching your poop.And then when you fall in love with someone or when someone becomes your real friend, you are able to sit with him and tell him things to the face and communicate and tell him "you are making mistakes in this" without fear that this relationship will leaveto lose.There is a real relationship when you show each other shit.That is really knowing.I don't know, aunt.I would have loved to have abdominals and be great.

Q.- Dani, son, you will have complaint of not having felt desired.

R.- No, I have no complaint (laughs).Yes I have felt desired, but ... what I say is that I prefer other things.I have other charms beyond the physical, because I have had my complexes and I still have them.I am not taking my shirt on the beach or things like that, for feeling observed ... and more in this world, where there is a model to follow and all that.And I have paid more attention to other things that fill me more.All this of social networks ... there is a movement there that is more similar to porn than to real life.Everyone wants to have the ass above, the perfect tits ... and we live in that, right?No one talks about whether my son is affectionate, or a very communicative guy, or my girl ... Bua, I go crazy because she is there and grabs me by my hand and helps me get ahead.No. We look for the tit, the ass, the arm.

Q.- The trophy.

R.- Yes. We are a bit heavy.We want to show a seemingly perfect life and then the rock is having dinner in a restaurant and they take a photo smiling and then each one is with his phone.

Q.- How many couples do not direct the word for hours but if you see their Instagram you think they have been having a wonderful dinner, full of conversation and stimuli.All fiction.

R.- Yes, Aunt.I don't have social networks on my phone.Also when it comes to being creative and composing ... you can look conditioned by what people can tell you and end up making the album that people are asking you.Everything I get in my networks is written, but I try to make it a useful and work tool and not something that dominates my life.I am lazy.Nor do I have WhatsApp, because I don't like the question is "Are you online?"And they send you a message ...

Q.- The imperative of having to answer right away, to be permanently available.

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A.- Yes, and maybe I am a lucky one to be able to do it, right?But I don't cool me.

Q.- We talked about therapy.Do you do psychotherapy or have you taken medication at some point?

A.- I do a therapy in which I am drawing a line of life since I am little ... to where we arrive (smiles).

Q.- Up to one hundred and twenty.

R.- Yes (laughs).We are discouraging a lot of things.And suddenly, this summer, that I have spent a lot of time with my parents, I have realized that having discouraged certain things (that you have them there with resentment, that I would have liked that your father or mother would have been otherwise…) I feel better.Having spoken things, having placed them and giving them the place they deserve, I have spent a summer without arguing with them, being comfortable, being less irascible.Enjoying the parents I have, that I don't have others.I have the ones I have.

Q.- Manolo and Carmen.

R.- Yes. And they have the son they have.They are my parents and they are not, they are not the way I would have liked to be.

Q.- We are all tremendously influenced by our parents, right?

A.- For me.They were very fans that my vocation was what I was, they have always supported me, they have been there and I think they are two great guys.

Q.- What has been the most surprised to discover of yourself in that line of life, things that could be buried in the conscious or the subconscious?

A.- That in spite of everything I have the ability to sit down to ask whether I have needed it and I love that.That has to do with the fear of suffering, with the fear of having a bad time and knowing that there were people around that I could protect me.

Dani Martín in conversation with Porfolio.javier Carbajal.

Q.- How does one distinguish your best friends?

R.- That is the passage of time.I listen to the name of "María Amaro" and she wants to cry, because she loves her, because she is my sister, because she loves her and she excites me everything beautiful that can happen to her.That happens to you with some people and with another it does not happen to you and it will never happen to you.That says time and says your behavior towards her, yours, her son, her husband, how she has managed her life.I admire her.I am lucky to have very beautiful and very different friends, of different worlds, of different families, but today I feel very close.My friend Nacho, who has been friendship with me.Our friendship has gone through a lot of different places until today, which I think is the best moment of the two as friends.Eduardo, my lawyer.There are a lot of people in my life that are very important.

Q.- Sometimes we talk about our best friends but we don't ask ourselves what kind of friend we are.Are we one of those who can be counted to make a move, one of those who take the phone at three in the morning, one that buries a corpse for you ...?What kind of friend are you?

A.- Well, I think that for a year and a half I am best friend than it was before.I have realized that not everything was around my person, but also to spend time to others, you have to devote time to friendship.Friendship can not only go around your work, your profession, your concerts, your plans.Real friendship is being next to people who want not only in your moments, but also in yours.Give you permissions.Do not always bring them to your land to do the plan that you like.

Q.- Are those vices of the trade?

A.- They are vices of the trade, they are acquired behaviors that sometimes make us feel more comfortable.They are also fears that do not allow us to go to sleep at another house, or to a plan where you do not know whether or not you are going to be comfortable.The handicap of being a known person makes you more afraid to allow you to go to certain sites and not know if you will be able to escape that site.For example, I have my corner that is Zahara de los Atunes, which is like a house, but if I go to Ibiza ... it is as if I missed a handle.But I think you have to get out of comfort places and pique your eyelet a little in a place and that you are not comfortable.

Q.- The new tour is called what expensive time is.Making retrospect, I thought of one of your most mythical songs.Nothing will be as before: "less bad" or "what pity"?

A.- I always say "nothing will be as before, but it can be much better."He has not eaten Buddha, but I think we can learn a lot from every thing we live.

Q.- Have you felt envy about you?

A.- Honestly, I have not felt envied.I think I also move in a very closed circle where there is no foot to that.

Q.- I thought rather at the time of the band.A frontman always annoy the seconds, those who touch next to or behind, to those who have less charisma.

R.- Yes, maybe who wanted to have a band and could not and was critical ... yes, he will have touched his cock that a blue-eyed babysitThat.But I do not give the place to those people I do not know or a guy called Astronaut55 and on Twitter put that I want my death and that my throat rot.Honestly: I sweat it.If Iñaki Gabilondo or Serrat or Sabina or Jabois or you says, I could feel hurt and it would hurt, but today I honestly do not affect what someone unknown think about me.

Q.- What have the rest of the band members told you about this tour?

A.- They have not told me anything, we have no relationship.

Q.- Will they be mosquty?

R.- Fracted?You think?I don't know, aunt.I with Chema yes, with the bassist.Well, I don't think they can be mosqued because David last year also tribured to El Canto's songs and did it in his way and seems very respectful to me.For me this is a tribute and within the album there is a dedication for them.

Q.- Yes, I have read it and it seemed generous on your part.

A.- I don't know if generous, but it's what has come out.I think my cousin is a great musician, a great composer.I'm glad how beautiful it happens.We are two very different people, you know?

Q.- What?

A.- As for tastes, lifestyles, many things.I do not say it negatively, it is so.It is done.Each one follows their path and period.But as soon as the records arrive, I have bought a lot, because Sony gives us very little records, I would like to send him one, because this I have not done it even to stay above anyone or to demonstrate anything to anyone.

The madman's song in 1999, when they started his overwhelming project.

Q.- How did you play with us, huh?With the idea of "that returns, that does not come back" ... all my lost crazy generation, trending topic, the nostalgia unleashed.

A.- We were not waiting for that answer and I really tell you.It is a recurring question that I have been receiving for eleven years every time I get on a taxi or that I go to the butcher shop.Well nothing, the answer is this.And it doesn't bother me when they tell me "Jo, uncle, because the song was cool."And I say: "Guay, if the song I invented it."

Q.- The song is you, you have not stopped being.As Dalí was surrealism.

R.- (laughs).Yes, it's me, of course, and singing is also my cousin.It's my life.

Q.- In your last song you say "I ruined with so much pose."I wanted to ask you at what time of childhood or adolescence you chose to "make your cool" to survive.So they wouldn't give you collejas.When does a child understand?

R.- The child sees the world and says: Here I have to protect myself.Well look, I put on a piercing with 17 years in London in my mouth, and then another in the eyebrow, and another, and I began to tattoo, and it is a way to parapet you before society.Faced with that physical force that you may not have at that time.You need some security to face life.I came from doing a music TV program with 14 years, then another with 17, and in the institute it was like the rare.An uncle who likes music, theater ...?

Q.- Was it at that time, would you say?

A.- I don't know if I missed, but being sensitive was like something strange.

Q.- Something little male.

A.- Yes, it was little male, and I notice that without wanting it I have something very primate in my way of walking or speaking or being.I consider myself quite primary in many things, and in others, emotionally very intelligent.Then what helped me was to crush first of BUP and I became the largest of the class (smile a little thug).

Q.- What a verbs.

R.- Tripitate, tript.Yes incredible.It is already that my mother said: "It is that the child is not that he has studied and suspended, he has not even put the bastard."I was not interested in anything.Nothing that happened in the classroom corresponded to the things I had in my head.

Q.- Do you think what some shirts say, that of "School Kills Artists"?

A.- Right now there are a lot of schools and places where since childhood tries to encourage vocation but you have to have pasta to be able to go to a school of those.But fuck, I grew up in a school at Fuente El Saz in the year 83, that threw you from the pin and gave me some hosts that you flip.It was a town school and there we had to survive.I said I liked to play the guitar and it was weird.

Q.- Do you think there are more masculinity models, now children have more options and understand that there is not a single way of being a man?

A.- There is a little more open mind.There are generations where there is more tolerance.There is still a lot of chief and a lot of Cazurro and there will always be in this country, but I think we are getting people to be what it really is and we see it as normal, not as this of: “I understand that someone can be transsexual… ”No. How do you "understand"?It is that someone is transsexual because he feels it and that's it, you don't have to understand anything.We come from a dictatorship and that leaves an inheritance, we come from a lot of wounds without closing, we come from a continuous struggle that today is still very present in politics, in some communities ... I think there is as a lack of unity andHoney in many things.

Q.- Is there a place in the present of that authoritarianism and that machismo that we still have inside?In the end it was forty years.

A.- Yes there is, yes.It was 800 years of oppression towards women, for example.Well, I have been lucky enough to raise myself in a house where we have all collaborated.My mother was not the only one who did the food or that she collected the table.On weekends my sister and I made the bathrooms.In my family the woman and the man were two people who worked and did everything they could for the good of their children and I have received a feminist education where the equality of the two sexes was absolute.I have never seen my father ask for something to be brought to the living room.My mother has not been in the kitchen in life and thank God, because she cooks fatal (laughs).She also came from working and said "whoever wants to have dinner, to make her dinner" (she clicks her fingers).So until the age of 11 I fed on muffins with a tail-cao, then I learned to make me sandwiches and then learned to make my soup (laughs).And biscuits.

Dani Martín in conversation with Porfolio.javier Carbajal.

Q.- In the lyrics of this last song you also talk about gut pain.When does the gut hurts you and what is that symptom?

A.- I am in my gut when something emotional happens to me.

Q.- Somatizas.

R.- Yes. In the gut and skin.The pain of guts is that pain that they are fucking your life and that something that comes from your illusion have been torn.That refers to the external noise that occurred in the song.The ego, envy.People tell me: "Are you talking about your cousin there?"No, I don't talk about him, but about many things that were around that they started generating a lot of noise.The bad efforts of the people who managed our tours ...

Q.- The manager that trapero.

A.- Yes, many things that made us take away.I never took away my illusion, thank God, but the desire yes, and that generated a gut pain.I learned a lot of what I didn't want to repeat in my life.

Q.- Did they force you to continue?The typical: see the chicken of the golden eggs and tell you "no, you have to work, that we are a pasta machine."

A.- Many people told us that if we were crazy.We were earning a lot of money.And both for David and for Chema and for me he could concern what we wanted to do to the pasta we were winning at that time together.Maybe at the beginning the decision was thought for a while, but this is like when you have a time with a couple and suddenly Juanito or Pepita appears and generates more love ...

Q.- The time has always been a way to leave it gently, right?

A.- Yes, well, or not, there have been couples who have made them realize that they could not live without each other.In this case it was not so.We made a house on the beach, go to her whenever you want, I will return: that for me were the songs.But I don't feel like asking for opinion or ask me.I do not feel like holding meetings and have to decide whether we are going to play in Jaén or not.I feel like riding my office, I feel like my ideology and my speech, I want it to be.Twelve years later I am very glad of that decision I made.

Q.- Within what you have, you didn't have many nonsense, right?As for wearing clothes or getting economic muscle.Now more than many artists play the display of cochazos and watches and mansions and I don't know what.Turbocapitalism.You were going to pick up a waves in shoes and short pants.

R.- Yes!And Gemma Nierga scolded us for doing so."Wow pints, such."She came out naturally.We got on the van dressed in a way and we fell a chorreton of a hot puppy and went out like that.We didn't repair that.Let's see, living well does not have to generate any guilt.Another thing is to teach how you are eating the caviar or you are drinking a bottle of Vega Sicily or what car you have.

Q.- Is that obscene?

A.- I don't know if it's obscene, but it is not necessary.It is not necessary to tell the house where you are staying on vacation.For me.He who does it, seems to me with a fucking mother, but I believe that there are certain things that are one and for one and that they are part of your privacy.I have not taken a picture of my house in my fucking life.I have not taken a picture of my car in my life.I have not taught whether I have or do not have.It seems pornographic.Dislike.But I respect the one who likes it and seems great to me.Just as I don't like to talk or answer the question in a photocall of "How is your heart?"If you ask me differently, come.The place imports from where he wonders.I don't want the yellow site.I have always wanted the songs to be the protagonists of my life.As my father says: "We are not so important."

Q.- Do you bother you the articles style: "All Dani Martín's girlfriends"?

R.- I don't read them.They are told by some friends that I have.I am aware that when I say that Peter Pan is a song that I dedicated to Patricia [Conde], the next day there will be twenty clickbaits, but I sweat it today.I think he usually talks about me from respect.My father tells me: “What you are is a full.You are not so important to get you on the cover. ”

Q.- Your father goes down, huh?

R.- Yes. To land.And he is right.

Q.- What is the money for, Dani?

A.- Money serves to enjoy, to be able to give your family and you, in case of waiting in Social Security, a better health.And be able to pay you an extraordinary doctor and who can save your life.The money serves to share it, because if it is not boring.If you have a pretty house and you can't do barbecues every weekend with your friends, it is no use: neither the barbecue nor the beautiful house.Money serves to spend it and also have some peace of mind at some moments of life.

Q.- Are you Manirroto?

A.- I am not a manirroto, but I am not grab ’either.I'm generous.I am manirroto having dinner, eating and drinking wine.But I am not a manirroto buying watches, neither Armani nor Versace pants, nor jewelry nor anything like that.I think I have known how to order myself in that sense and surround myself with people who in these last twelve years have helped me to settle and celebrate and take care of the fortune that my work generated income like the ones it has generated.

Q.- What relationship do you have with God?Have you ever talked to him, he is deaf, it exists, it does not exist ...?

A.- For me it exists.I believe in God but I don't believe in the Church.I talk to God, I speak with my sister.The other day I was in Zaragoza and I love visiting El Pilar, look what incongruity, right?But I have an energy with that place.I am a believer of my God, of the God who is in people, in the acts, in one, in having faith, in connecting with something that gives you security.My God is my sister: she is the God to whom I speak to her and to whom I ask a lot of things.That in the end it is like a justification to answer yourself from another place and from another point of view, because maybe if you ask you directly you are not able to answer yourself in a real way.I don't believe on the other.The other is a very archaic business and history that I respect and such, and that it seems very good, but I think that the intelligence of youth is placing things in the right place.

Dani Martín in talk with Porfolio.javier Carbajal.

Q.- What do you know about seduction?

R.- Me?

Q.- Yes, how do you seduce.Or maybe the fan phenomenon has made you relax and not have to seduce, just be seduced?

A.- I have been doing therapy for a year and a half to stop seducing.I work non-seduction.I have not been able to seduce throughout my life.

Q.- That is interesting.

A.- I have not been able to avoid falling well, wanting to please, to be nice ... and it is exhausting, fuck.Now I have decided that I am going to say what I feel.The other day I heard Alaska say a phrase that I loved.They asked him: "Didn't I give you modest of your life in that reality you did?"And forgetting said: "We do not feel modesty at any time to teach our life because we love our life."

Q.- What aunt.

A.- I loved it.I forget it is an incredible guy and I admire it a lot.She is right.Being who you really are is great because you like, you will really like it.Being a fried potato is very difficult: we cannot and should not like everyone.That's a lie.If someone does not like my music, then he doesn't like it.I have already tried to like everyone for a long time.And in the end he liked a lot of people, we have sold 17,000 tickets for five Wizinks in Madrid.People on the street are very friendly with me.They are beautiful days.

Q.- What do you know about love (of the couple) that you did not know with 20 years?

R.- That you have to dare.That you have to be generous.That you have to be patient.And that couple love is not transient mental alienation, that is falling in love.

Q.- But how we like that alienation, huh?

R.- It is the cock.

Q.- It is always short.

R.- It is a drug.But really love is "Joé, how I feel loved, how this person listens to me."My psychiatrist says that I have to find a woman who throws some horrific farts and that I like.That is real life.That people shit, mea, vomits, sometimes he doesn't pull the chain ... P.- Leave hairs in the shower.

R.- Yes.

Q.- And what the psychiatrist tells you has not happened to you yet?

A.- It hasn't happened yet, no.But I think that I am doing for the work, it will happen.

Q.- I guess you tend to idealize.

A.- Yes, totally, I have always tended to idealize everything in my life, and to make a script ... that is frustrating, because things like you want to happen.

Q.- You are afraid of commitment.

A.- Yes, I'm afraid of commitment but I am working on it.

Q.- I don't know if you have to commit because yes, what do you think of that?There is not a single way of having relationship or loving.You will not have to go through the altar for noses, right?

R.- No, of course.And everyone can have the agreement he wants in his relationship.Maybe there is a couple who wants to include people in sex.

Q.- Could you?

R.- (Resopla).I, maybe, fantasize, I may have ever thought about that.But I wouldn't feel comfortable, no.I am a little more classic, or less daring.I would be afraid, a little.

Q.- Why?

R.- For discomfort.Because I also believe that I cool and make love when you have confidence, and to have confidence they have to spend a series of things.When you make love with confidence, I personally like it much more, than when you don't know the other person.The skin, the hug, I don't know, it's prettier.The other I have lived too, but it was like a bottle.I prefer to have a glass of wine that is rich.

Q.- They are dreams is a great song about Platonic loves.What have been yours, have you had any?

R.- Hostia, of course.Since childhood ... Well, Miriam Díaz Aroca, when she made a disaster drawer, which was in skates.And then Penelope Cruz.

Q.- What ready, friend.

R.- In ham, ham.I am trying to remember my institute folder.I loved Crawford.And a model called Almudena Fernández.

Q.- You have said you want to have a daughter and take her to Wanda.

R.- I would freak out.

Q.- How are those plans go, are you doing for it?

A.- I would love that to happen, but naturally (laughs).

Q.- You have received some messages from candidates.

A.- I don't look at private messages, I already told you ... (laughs).Let's see if that is going to be.The same one day I get and Almudena Fernández is writing.Or Miriam Díaz Aroca.You imagine?

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