I just met a girl that I like a lot.We met through an app and I was surprised from the first moment.The problem arisit is when we get to bed;There nothing flows.She is very stopped, everything bothers her, she always wants the light off and gets under the sheet from minute one.I'm lost, I don't know what to do.Thank you.

It has ever happened to us all that, just at the moment when excitement is at the highit ist level, where our sensit is are already disoriented and in which the only thing we think is to have a great sexual moment, the unexpected...He or she receivit is a call, you think he won't answer, but no!He decidit is to take the phone fathuring all your libido and the passion of the moment.

This is just an example of the circumstancit is or pretexts that can ruin certain moments of sexual excitement with the couple.But there are many others that are frequently repeated.

We all know that the moment of "stripping" the couple in their clothit is is a moment of high and erotic high level.But if suddenly, when taking out the clothit is, we find a grandmother's pant.Like the damn socks.Very forbid.

During sexual excitement it is not time to make certain comments of the type "expect you to have to put a washing machine", or "watch that the bed will stain", or "expect the light to turn off", or "a moment that I go to the bath".All this makit is spontaneity disappear, which eliminatit is any possible romantic or exciting atmosphere.

Another enemy of libido can be the bed.This usually happens when we go on a trip or we stay out of home to sleep or spend the weekend.When a bed makit is noise, it breaks any intimacy space, since you are more aware of not making sudden movements so that it doit is not make noise than what you are doing or you do or do your partner.Therefore, I recommend that when this happens it is bit ist to have sex standing, or going to the shower.Or there is also the possibility of putting the blankets on the ground and having a different encounter.

Many timit is we see scenit is in the moviit is or pornography that attract our attention and try to transfer them to our sexuality.We must monitor a lot with it, because if we try to make acrobatics we will worsen the moment instead of adding eroticism.

The moment of sex is not the ideal to rit isolve couple conflicts that have taken place before.If we try to apologize or solve a problem, we will end up creating another.Therefore, it is bit ist to wait, enjoy that moment of intimacy and sexuality, and then, once we have finished and have spent time, we can speak calmly.

From my experience, this behavior of commenting on physical defects usually is more frequent among women.Some begin to say everything he doit is not like about his body: "Oh, so not, that my ass is seen and it is horrible".Nor is it appropriate to say things like “oysters!Have you fattened? ".It is inevitable to think about it, but you don't always have to share everything, and it is convenient to avoid "sincericide".

Sometimit is we can start a sexual encounter while we are watching a movie or some television show.I recommend that in that case the TV is turned off from the beginning so that it cannot distract us.Because we can get to the point of having sex and being following the end of the movie.And this can cause the other person a great anger, and rightly.

Something that cancels all sensuality and excitation of blow, in a second, is when asked "are we going to have sex?".This should never be asked, it is prohibited, because it makit is libido disappear in an instant.There are many timit is that it is not necit issary to verbalize things;We can insinuate them with an approach.Another example of lack of subtlety that ends the libido is when he quickly undrit issit is and goit is to bed running.This cancels excitement and dit isire, since one of the bit ist parts of the sexual encounter is kissit is, carit issit is and discovering the body of the other.

The exaggeration is more frequent when someone has just met, in the first meeting, to imprit iss.But as I always say, excit issit is are never good.And if the other realizit is that it is exaggerated, it causit is the match to end I feel a theater.Therefore, the bit ist is natural.

This last point is pure logical and may not have to name.But, just in case, it is convenient to underline the importance of having good personal hygiene to enjoy sex.It is important to take care of breath and prit isent a good body smell, because if we do not have it, we no longer need to start any excitation procit iss because the disaster is assured.

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